Anger, Part 1

Bill Bryan defines righteous anger and advises Christians from Ephesians 4 about how to deal with it.

 

1. Introduction: Anger as a universal problem

 

2. The Nature of Anger

• Anger is expressed in various forms: irritation, exasperation, frustration, fury, outrage
• Physical effects of anger: increased pulse, sweaty palms, dilated pupils, elevated voice pitch, tense muscles, etc
• Definition of anger: best understood through personal experience

 

3. Everyday Experiences of Anger

• Example 1: A father angry over a chewed-up pair of shoes
• Example 2: A mother frustrated by her son’s mess before an event
• Example 3: The story of Joe, the overwhelmed businessman
  • Joe’s escalating frustration throughout his day
  • His anger explodes at home but is controlled when speaking to someone like his pastor

 

4. The Root Problem with Anger

• Anger isn’t uncontrollable—it’s often a choice not to control it
• People manage anger selectively based on circumstances and relationships
• Uncontrolled anger damages relationships and skews priorities

 

5. Biblical Perspective on Anger

• Ephesians 4 offers guidance on handling anger
• Contrast between the "old man" and "new man" in Christ
• Victory over anger comes through the Holy Spirit, not human effort

 

6. Principles for Handling Anger

Principle 1: Certain Anger is Righteous

• Righteous Anger targets wrong actions, not people
• Examples:
  • Florence Nightingale’s anger over poor hospital conditions
  • Jesus cleansing the temple and confronting the Pharisees
• Righteous anger leads to positive, corrective actions

Principle 2: Set Time Limits on Anger

• “Do not let the sun go down on your anger.”
• Resolve anger promptly, ideally before bedtime
• Prolonged anger creates emotional and relational damage
• Biblical examples of unresolved anger:
  • Cain’s anger led to murder
  • Saul’s jealousy and anger consumed his life
  • Jonah’s anger turned into depression

Principle 3: Substitute Edifying Words for Unwholesome Ones

• Avoid unwholesome speech; focus on words that build others up
• The importance of transparency in relationships:
  • Learn to say, “I’m sorry,” “I was wrong,” and “I love you”

 

7. Two Expressions of Anger

           A. Ventilation: Explosive, outward expression of anger

           B. Repression: Internalizing anger, leading to emotional and physical consequences

• Both need to be addressed promptly to prevent further damage.

 

8. The Spiritual Solution to Anger

• True control over anger comes from Christ’s supernatural power
• Christians have access to the Holy Spirit, enabling transformation
• Key question: Do we truly want to control our anger?

 

9. Conclusion and Prayer

• A call to rely on God’s Word and the Holy Spirit for transformation
• Invitation for non-believers to accept Christ and receive a new nature
• Closing prayer for wisdom, transformation, and reliance on God’s power

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